:: Sunday, 22 February 2004 ::
Hmmm. Got a problem.
Gay marriage is giving me grief.
Bride and groom just does not equal first and second applicant. I am with Chris Pearson on this and I reckon he puts it pretty durned well in his opinion piece from yesterdxay's The Aus.
See, if I am sitting in a bar and I am asked by a man "are you married?" all I need to do is nod or not nod. And if I nod, there is ahole subtext of meaning, not the least of which is 'mess with this woman and there's a bloke somewhere who could beat the crap outta me'.
I never want to be asked by a woman if I am married. But that's just me. No big deal.
But I got a gay buddy who I respect. A lot. And he says marriage should be the same for all citizens, gay or straight.
I cannot get past bride and groom.
I cannot get past gender.
It just ain't marriage if its two grooms. It's gay marriage.
And for me that is a very different thing. It is a committment thing for sure. With real love, and real adultery, and real divorce, and real superannuation and real succession rights.
But it is gay marriage. And it should be called that.
Because it simply is not actual marriage. Historical marriage. Bride and groom marriage that exists in every country on earth.
That is real marriage. Gay marriage is something else. And gay committment and love is not a reason to change my kind of marriage. It is a reason to create a gay kind of marriage.
I do not want my kinda marriage getting messed up with gay stuff.
Urgh. This is very difficult.
:: WB 1:08 am [link+] ::